Taking Stock of What Makes You Tick
One of the best ways of keeping your anger under control is through keeping tabs of what triggers the angry response from you. Not knowing what makes you react angrily would not help you control your emotions. Keep track of the daily things that gnaw away at your patience or might otherwise solicit an unprecedented reaction from you.
Pay attention to situations that may trigger negative feelings. Keep a daily memo of everyday scenario as soon as the feelings of emotional anger surface. Make sure you carry a notepad for taking down notes throughout the day. Make special notice of the time of day you are prone to be shorter tempered than usual.
Triggers may come in the form of persons. Try to notice if it is just one particular person or if it is a group of people that make you angry. If it is just the same person, be aware of the situation in general. Does the person make you angry because they are purposely making you angry or if it is just the annoyance of having the person around.
This should at least give you awareness to avoid the person in the future, or if avoidance is not possible, awareness will at least keep you on guard for any emotional response from you and perhaps you would be better equipped in handle matters of conflict.
Sometimes anger may be a response to situations. Traffic jams, for example or long lines at the DMV are usual unavoidable circumstances. Venting your anger on some one will not solve your problem as the problem does not lay on any single person, but on the whole situation.
Make special note if it is one particular situation or a variety of situations altogether that make you lose control. Perhaps the trigger may be in the common events that arise in different situations, like long lines in particular whether in the grocery, the bank or at the movie theatre. If you can not avoid the same situation that could trigger an angry response from you, at least you should be aware that you could potentially have an emotional outburst during this time.
Some triggers may not be in the form of people or situations. Sometimes the culprit may lie in things, like machines that do not work when you need it the most, or computer glitches. We have all lost our temper one time or another when dealing with machines that just refuse to work with us. Perhaps it is high time to get your computer upgraded, or junk that paper copier and get a new one. If not, then you could perhaps ask someone to assist you and you could avoid the situation altogether.
Make special note of the time of day when the outburst occurred. Some people are just hot tempered during particular times and being aware of the time when you could be more vulnerable to angry attacks could help you avoid the situation in the future. If you notice that you are especially hot tempered after lunch, for example, then you could perhaps take this cue and take a short nap after lunch hours, just to skip the angriest part of your day. Or make this time an alone time, giving you time to relax and take a break from people, things or situations.Grinder
One of the best ways of keeping your anger under control is through keeping tabs of what triggers the angry response from you. Not knowing what makes you react angrily would not help you control your emotions. Keep track of the daily things that gnaw away at your patience or might otherwise solicit an unprecedented reaction from you.
Pay attention to situations that may trigger negative feelings. Keep a daily memo of everyday scenario as soon as the feelings of emotional anger surface. Make sure you carry a notepad for taking down notes throughout the day. Make special notice of the time of day you are prone to be shorter tempered than usual.
Triggers may come in the form of persons. Try to notice if it is just one particular person or if it is a group of people that make you angry. If it is just the same person, be aware of the situation in general. Does the person make you angry because they are purposely making you angry or if it is just the annoyance of having the person around.
This should at least give you awareness to avoid the person in the future, or if avoidance is not possible, awareness will at least keep you on guard for any emotional response from you and perhaps you would be better equipped in handle matters of conflict.
Sometimes anger may be a response to situations. Traffic jams, for example or long lines at the DMV are usual unavoidable circumstances. Venting your anger on some one will not solve your problem as the problem does not lay on any single person, but on the whole situation.
Make special note if it is one particular situation or a variety of situations altogether that make you lose control. Perhaps the trigger may be in the common events that arise in different situations, like long lines in particular whether in the grocery, the bank or at the movie theatre. If you can not avoid the same situation that could trigger an angry response from you, at least you should be aware that you could potentially have an emotional outburst during this time.
Some triggers may not be in the form of people or situations. Sometimes the culprit may lie in things, like machines that do not work when you need it the most, or computer glitches. We have all lost our temper one time or another when dealing with machines that just refuse to work with us. Perhaps it is high time to get your computer upgraded, or junk that paper copier and get a new one. If not, then you could perhaps ask someone to assist you and you could avoid the situation altogether.
Make special note of the time of day when the outburst occurred. Some people are just hot tempered during particular times and being aware of the time when you could be more vulnerable to angry attacks could help you avoid the situation in the future. If you notice that you are especially hot tempered after lunch, for example, then you could perhaps take this cue and take a short nap after lunch hours, just to skip the angriest part of your day. Or make this time an alone time, giving you time to relax and take a break from people, things or situations.Grinder
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